| A thirtieth birthday can be an opportunity to really take | | | | work, which again is something no-one can control. |
| stock of the life you have had so far. Up to this point | | | | But here's where there is some hope, as a nearly or |
| people who have been single or even in a long term | | | | just after thirty year old, you can seriously start looking |
| relationship feel this is ok, but once they are headed | | | | for that special someone because for some strange |
| toward thirty something, it changes, 'I'm not really all that | | | | reason the biological clock goes into gear and people |
| young anymore and I should have done...' | | | | want to settle down, they've simply had enough fun to |
| For a person who has marriage, children or a very | | | | realise it's not all that and are ready to really try for |
| successful career they can sail through it, knowing | | | | something more real. |
| they have achieved some of the life goals they | | | | Maybe hosting a party and inviting lots of people will |
| wanted, but for someone who is unmarried or even | | | | help you mingle with people that are roughly the same |
| without a partner, has no children and does not feel | | | | age and looking for love. Try joining a gym, this will also |
| they are in their dream job, this can be a really difficult | | | | help you get fit and exercise and you could meet |
| time. | | | | someone there although it will give you a great |
| Thirty is an age when if you are in the second | | | | confidence boost as well. Ask a friend to help you with |
| category you start to assume there is something | | | | clothes or hair if you feel this can make you less |
| wrong with some or all of the life decisions you have | | | | appealing as a partner. Join an on line dating agency or |
| made or even something wrong with you personally. | | | | website and start actively looking for someone special. |
| As a thirty year old you expect that you should have | | | | Just don't waste anyone's time in your search for love |
| done something to prove yourself as a real adult like | | | | and be ruthless, if you do find someone but after three |
| owning your own home, car, having children or being | | | | dates there's no real spark then just tell them you |
| married and if you're still at home wondering why | | | | want to be friends because when it's the real thing it'll |
| things haven't turned out as you planned, then write a | | | | sweep you away and you just know that person is |
| list. | | | | someone it will work with. |
| This list should be realistic goal for the next two years, | | | | If you are having problems with your career and need |
| think about your dreams and how you can make them | | | | to refocus your efforts, then again think about what |
| happen. For example if you haven't learnt to drive, then | | | | aspects of the work you have experience in have you |
| start saving a little each month and get your provisional, | | | | so far enjoyed. Think about the careers that |
| even if you know you cannot afford a car at this | | | | implement these aspects and work out how you can |
| stage, do something towards the goal. Get your | | | | make yourself attractive to this field of work or sector. |
| licence sorted and start learning the highway-code and | | | | Do you need more experience or training, if so when |
| at least make a start. | | | | and how can this be done? Is there anyone you |
| If you have been unsuccessful in the romance field | | | | already know that can help you in this matter? if so |
| then don't spend hours thinking about why this | | | | call in a favour and use the resources around you. |
| happened, just know that there are two key factors to | | | | Turning thirty doesn't have to feel like the beginning of |
| starting a successful relationship and they are luck and | | | | a slow decline into being old, although to many it can |
| timing. Unfortunately neither can be forced, you need | | | | but this is just another chance for you to stop and |
| to firstly be lucky enough to find someone compatible | | | | take stock and change how your life is going. Stop |
| to you, which is complicated enough. Then you both | | | | thinking about what you want and start getting what |
| have to have switched from the idea of loving | | | | you want - to make the dreams you have happen. |
| someone to really wanting to make a relationship | | | | |