| Ending a relationship is always difficult especially when | | | | children in the house you MUST leave for your safety. |
| you are still deep down in love with the person but | | | | In a situation where a stressed out couple have had a |
| there are several situations when ending a relationship | | | | few pushes between them, it is not the same as one |
| with someone is simply the right thing to do. Everyone's | | | | person continuously being the aggressor of violent |
| relationship is slightly different and there are thing you | | | | within a household. Someone who is physically violent |
| may watch your friends put up with, that you would | | | | towards their partner or their children needs to be |
| never do. Even when all of your close friends and | | | | given space before they do something serious and if |
| family really dislike your partner it doesn't mean you | | | | you are living in these conditions you must seek help. |
| should give up on your relationship with that person, | | | | Telling a family member who will be able to support |
| especially if you are actually happy. | | | | you while the aggressor can get some anger |
| The situations when you HAVE to leave someone are | | | | management counselling is a start. This will do more |
| different because you have to leave for you not | | | | then heal a relationship as the aggressor may have |
| because someone tells you too. | | | | many deep issue from their past. You must separate |
| 1) No TRUST- trust and communication are the basics | | | | for protection initially until the person gets regular help |
| to everyone's relationships, even friendships but if you | | | | and their therapists agree they should try and have |
| cannot trust your partner then you do not have a | | | | contact. Make it clear to your partner why you are |
| relationship - you have a disaster waiting to happen. | | | | leaving, if you cannot face the conflict then leave while |
| If they are repeatedly cheating on you and you cannot | | | | they are out and write a letter confronting their |
| trust them in a situation where they are out by | | | | behaviour with the contact details of where to get |
| themselves then you must finish the relationship | | | | help. |
| because the other person has no respect for you and | | | | 3) Substance Abuse- This can come under both of |
| is also putting you at risk with STI's. | | | | the categories above because anyone who loves |
| You may also be continuously paranoid, in which case | | | | drugs or alcohol more than you will just continue until |
| you need to work on yourself and giving yourself | | | | they get help, so again, leave them until they have the |
| space will help, so take a break anyway. | | | | support in place they need. |
| Give yourself time to heal maybe your partner | | | | It is never easy to make this decision but there are |
| cheated once and you cannot forgive them but if you | | | | situations when leaving your partner is the right thing to |
| can't, stop checking their phone or email behind their | | | | do, because staying with them is saying that you |
| back, its quite simple - you don't trust them. A few | | | | accept this behaviour and if you have any self respect |
| weeks break should give you some perspective and | | | | then you cannot live with someone or have a |
| you should know if you can continue with the | | | | relationship with someone who would abuse |
| relationship, or arrange counselling when you get back. | | | | themselves or you. |
| Either way if they are cheating or you're paranoid then | | | | The other thing to remember is staying in an unhappy |
| the chances are you will be arguing all the time and it | | | | or potentially dangerous relationship also blocks the |
| will be a really unhealthy relationship to be in, especially | | | | way for any other person you could actually be happy |
| if there are children involved. | | | | with, which is just stopping you from being happy. Why |
| 2) No RESPECT- If you have been hit, pushed or | | | | would you want to be with someone who doesn't |
| attacked by your partner, especially if you have | | | | want you? |