| There are so many films and TV programs full of | | | | 3) Would you do it again? Is there any way you could |
| couples that never seem to get together although you | | | | actually go watch your ex kiss your mate in front of |
| just will them to as they are perfect for one another. | | | | you, or ignoring you to be with their friends? Think |
| Like Mulder and Scully, Meredith and Derek and Bones | | | | about this one because you can spend the next |
| and Brennan. We all love to watch as the, will they, | | | | several years thinking that an ex partner was the best |
| won't they tv series plays out and misses with out | | | | thing that ever happened to you, and never move on. |
| minds, most usually with a 'dream sequence' where it | | | | Seeing a person for who they really are means |
| appears they get together, only for it to be all | | | | looking at their faults too and acknowledging how they |
| shattered at the end. | | | | treated you when you were together. |
| But thats TV, I hear you all shout! I know it's great, but | | | | Whether this is just a case of bad timing or situations |
| in the real world they would have all slept together at | | | | out of your control, your ex is your ex for a reason. |
| Christmas parties and realized it wasn't right - probably | | | | Deep down you know that either they or you were |
| gone out with their brother or sister for good measure, | | | | not committed to the relationship and wanted |
| just to make sure that they would never be together. | | | | something different - not necessarily better. So in the |
| In reality, if you have just broken up with someone and | | | | next few months when you hear how they have |
| you think you are still in love, just answer these | | | | moved on, don't wish for what could have been, look |
| questions and put a stop to many years of wondering. | | | | for what can be and focus on meeting someone who |
| 1) Why did you break up? In my opinion usually one | | | | will be there for you properly. More importantly, |
| person has compromised who they are, too much and | | | | someone, who you can love and will love you in return, |
| aren't even themselves anymore. Then they get sick | | | | who will give you the respect and time you need and |
| of the other person taking them for granted and | | | | let you love them too. |
| expecting too much from them, which leads to | | | | Relationship are hard enough work, without trying to |
| inevitable friction. | | | | start a new one. Confusion about a past relationship is |
| 2) Did you compromise? Can you learn from this? | | | | awful, so give yourself time and let the past go. There |
| Next time, don't bend yourself so far as to break, or | | | | will always be another romance just around the corner. |
| just stop expecting the moon on a stick and put some | | | | True love only happens once because when you find |
| effort in with your other half. | | | | it, you will never let it go. Happy healing! |